Monday, April 14, 2008

Bad Mom! Bad! Bad!

Yup. C'est moi! Can you understand me? My tongue is planted firmly in my cheek here, I'm afraid I might be mumbling.

So - today Miss G took a bath. It's Spring vacation week so we had plenty of time to dawdle this morning. And tomorrow. And the next day. Ugh. Oops, sorry.

Miss G was in the tub. She's 11. She knows how to swim. I don't sit with her in the bathroom any longer. Next thing I know, she's downstairs. Dressed. Including the requisite undergarments for a young lady. I ran upstairs to make sure Bella hadn't jumped into the tub. Even if she had, Gianna had emptied the tub. Yup, my Gianna.


The kid who at three so out out of control that the neuro assured me she would be on meds by 6 for her "oppositional defiant disorder" was bathed, dried, dressed and ready to go. All by herself.


Boy, I sure am a crappy Mom for changing who my kid was, aren't I? I must really hate her.


This post has been brought to you by biomedical interventions. Thank you.


Those of you in the autism world know what I'm talking about you. Many of you hate your kids too, right? ;)



14 comments:

Petra said...

Awesome, awesome, awesome.
Go Gianna, go.. didn't I tell you that she'd be soaring???

Count me too as one of those moms that hates her kid(s) so much that she will do anything to get him/them better (tongue firmly planted in cheek too, my dear).

I spent time yesterday with a young man of Z's age who is severely, severely affected. My heart just broke....

I know that somebody will put a prize on my head for saying this, but if autism truly is the next step in the human evolution (as some would like us to believe), then I say let's skip that step.. no let's erradicate that step...

Long live biomed, and courageous parents like yourself who will just never give up looking for answers.

Petra said...

To clarify, when I wrote about eradicating autism, I referred to the severe, non verbal, no functional communication, screaming, yelling, being in agony all the time type of autism...

Michelle O'Neil said...

Go G!

Irene said...

Yay G!

Yep, I'm in the hater line with ya!

Manic Mom said...

WHOOPPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!

What do you contribute this to Kim? Change in diet? Awesome mothering? All of the above? Happy day!!!

GFCF Mommy said...

Great post and congratulations Kim and Gianna! Biomedical treatments have had a factor in helping my son too. Without it, he would not be potty-trained. I credit it with bringing back his beautiful smile, because he felt better, he could do better and be all he is capable of being. Cured or recovered? Maybe not, and that isn't really the point, but happier and healthier, yes in a big way.

I do believe autism does bring with it some gifts for the Asperger's level, perhaps. But not being potty-trained is not one of them!

I thought of you the other night when I saw that hunky interviewer guy from GMA working the phones for the autism benefit on Comedy Central. I don't know how you could concentrate in the presence of such male pulchritude! Plus, he seems like a really nice guy, great dad himself, and charitably minded!

Kim Stagliano said...

Thanks! For Gianna. All of our biomedical interventions improve the girls lives. It's not easy, cheap or fun. But it's worth it. For the kids. It would be a lot easier for me to do none of it and let "the experts" handle the kids' progress. That's not my style. I'm not happy unless I'm holding the bull's horns.....

Happy BDay Manic! :)

GFCF Mommy, the diet works for some, works miracles for others and not as much for a few. As we know.

Today Miss G dressed herself again. Love that kid. Mia is learning too. And Bella is showing an interest.

Adaora A. said...

LMAO. Doctors cling to closely to their books Kim. The thing they fail to realize is that people will do what you allow them to do.

Parents who blindly follow the 'professional' diagnoses can limit the actual ability of their child. Supposing you treated your kids like complete invalids and made them completely dependant on you. That's exactly what they'd be like. You have faith in their ability as a human being and it shows in her abilities.

I have a friend from school who is in a wheel chair. Her parents were told she would be useless and to put her in a home immediately. Did I mention she is in university studying to be in social work, and lives on her own with her boyfriend? Yea...doctors limit ability by being too limited and to negative. There are of course exceptions to the rule, but there it is. Everyone learns in a different way.

Anonymous said...

Good for you! There should be more bad moms (and dads) like you
-Jill

RJeff said...

I'm not a doctor, but I've taught several tens of aspiring physicians (premeds) and know them for the (disparaging adjective deleted) they are. I've said it before, and I'll say it again (and again and again and ....) CHILDREN ARE INDIVIDUALS; THEY CANNOT BE FIT TO A BELL CURVE. This only works for large statistically significant populations. Last time I checked, one was not a very large statistically significant population.

Kim, Gianna is a beautiful example of this truism. Bless her heart.

Kim Stagliano said...

The greater good is often neither....

Kim Stagliano

Demon Hunter said...

Awww, Miss G is awesome and so is her mom. This is working out so well for you. I cringe when I know that I may have taken 10 vaccines as a baby, and now there are 36! That is too scary to comprehend. I'm horrified about it.

Kim,
I haven't seen you on my blog in a while. Come back and visit. :*)

Drama Mama said...

Wonderful!

Polly Kahl said...

That's fantastic Kim!