Tuesday, October 20, 2009

This Feels Like a Skirt that's Just A Bit Too Tight, but Looks Nice.

A Parishioner in our Church is a staff writer for The National Catholic Register. He wrote a lovely article HERE about our family. It's beautifully done and I accept the kindness with open arms. At the same time, it feels a bit uncomfortable to me, as we are not perfect Catholics, nor do we want to be, frankly. We have our differences with the Church. And if our priests make us pray for the Yankees and the Giants one more time I might stand up and scream, "Is that holy water or Kool Aid!"

Mark and Kim Stagliano couldn’t have been happier. Posing with their three young daughters right after 14-year-old Mia and 13-year-old Gianna, the two oldest, made their first holy Communion together last year, they thanked God for the amazement of his grace.

“Having that picture in our house of the girls in their white dresses,” says Kim, “is visual proof they made their first holy Communion, and we’re able to walk together as a family to Communion on Sunday.” All three daughters have autism.

Before the Staglianos became parishioners at St. Theresa Church in Trumbull, Conn., Kim attended her nephew’s first holy Communion in Ohio, and she remembers thinking that Mia might not be able to make hers...

On the other hand... The title of my Kimoir is, "All I Can Handle. I'm No Mother Teresa." And I mean it. I am NO Mother Teresa. I'm not even Moms Mabley (look her up, she's even before my time.) I can be a rotten wife, a pathetically icky Mom and a snarky b*tch.

However, we have gotten back to Church since moving to the Godless heathen Northeast. And it's precisely because St. Theresa's staff and Parishioners were kind to, and welcomed, our three children.


Roger Kulp said...

Reading Mr.Pronechen's article,my only thoughts were of all the hate that has been directed at you and your family from the neurodiversity blogosphere.

But hate and intolerance is what neurodiversity is all about.

pixiemama said...

Godless and heathen Northeast? Oh, darlin', c'mon down our way. I can find you a whole buncha Catholic churches who are obviously not as kind as the one you've discovered.

Our former priest went so far as to claim that Reilly's tumor turned out to be benign because the parish prayed for him the day of his surgery. Huh. OR - Maybe it was just a flippin' benign tumor that totally changed my child.


pixiemama said...

Apologies - not in a good place today. Am very happy for you that you've found a church where you feel welcomed.

Kim Rossi Stagliano said...

Roger, that's because I am not a person to them, nor are my children.

Oh Pixie, no apologies necessary. We have to pray for the Yankees and Giants EVERY WEEK - and last year they had POLITICAL signs on Church grounds. I have NO illusions about their perfection. Church, run by humans for humans. And some of the most "Catholic" people I know are the most messed up and plainly unwell. So... your apology is NOT welcome here! :) KIM

Kim Rossi Stagliano said...

Apology not welcome means, do not apologize. You know that, right?

K Fuller said...

I love the ad for a company that blocks porn at the bottom of the publication.

So glad you have found a place that allows you to have a little faith. I keep my faith inside me as I cannot be unwelcome in a church. Having that happen would probably push me right over the edge(pretty close most of the time anyway)
The one thing I know for sure is the our boy is saved and will go to whatever heaven there is. He could not be more innocent. He is lucky, no fear of judgement at all, not on earth or elsewhere!

Amy said...

Kim, here's how I read this. Now I should probably give y'all a disclaimer that I am Southern, Baptist and Southern Baptist. There is not a more picked apart denomination based on the stupid acts of its church-goers. They do some crazy stuff, I agree. I don't follow most of the rules and don't agree with most of the ruls -but their theology matches mine, so there you go. So that being said - I read this article in a spirit of "how can I do the same for the people in my church?" There are many times I did not go the extra mile for someone, or turned down the other hallway to avoid a conversation or lend a helping hand. I'm not perfect either. But that's not how Christ worked it. He loved all and shared the kingdom of heaven with all who followed Him - rich, poor, fat, skinny, tall, short, speaking, nonspeaking, blind, deaf - red, yellow, black and white - they are all precious in His sight. Are they all precious in my sight? This article inspired me to do more. And I see the "props" that you received as "wow these guys have their hands full and they still showed up for chuch school every week". You don't have to be perfect Catholics to receive a little props. I still just love this article so much. You are blessed to have such a loving church. Sadly, not everyone gets to experience the same.

Kim Rossi Stagliano said...

Amy, I really should be a Universalist I think. I think God is everywhere, it's just what "flavor" or "dressing" you put on God that makes us different. And those are man-made rules. I'll take the Golden rule. What more do we need? Thanks.

Holly said...


I am unable to view this whole article. Can you send it to me please--would like to read. sunnysky223@embarqmail.com